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Beyond the Highlight Reel: Why “Good Enough” is the New Perfect in Parenting

You see it while scrolling during that one quiet moment you get all day: a friend’s perfectly curated family photo at a pumpkin patch, a blogger’s recipe for organic, gluten-free, dinosaur-shaped nuggets, a post about 101 screen-free activities to build your toddler’s pre-frontal cortex.

And in that moment, the guilt creeps in.

“Am I doing enough?”
“Should we be doing more educational crafts?”
“I let them watch cartoons so I could drink my coffee in peace. Am I failing?”

If this sounds familiar, take a deep breath. You are not alone. In the age of information and social media, parents are drowning in a sea of expectations, constantly measured against an impossible standard of perfection. But what if the secret to raising happy, resilient kids isn’t about being perfect? What if it’s about being “good enough”?

The Myth of the Perfect Parent

The pressure to be a “perfect parent” is a modern invention. It’s fueled by a constant stream of expert advice (often contradictory) and the polished “highlight reels” we see on social media. We’re led to believe that a good parent is a patient, ever-present, creative, culinary genius who never raises their voice and whose children are always happy and well-behaved.

Striving for this ideal isn’t just exhausting—it’s counterproductive. It leads to:

• Parental Burnout: Trying to do everything perfectly leaves you feeling drained, anxious, and resentful.
• Less Joy: When you’re focused on a “parenting playbook,” you can miss the spontaneous, beautiful, messy moments of connection right in front of you.
• Anxiety in Kids: Children are incredibly perceptive. When they sense your stress about getting everything “right,” it can make them anxious, too. They may become afraid to make mistakes for fear of disappointing you.

The Power of the “Good Enough” Parent

The term “good enough mother” was coined decades ago by pediatrician and psychoanalyst D.W. Winnicott. He wasn’t giving parents a pass to be lazy or neglectful. He was making a revolutionary point: a parent’s loving, responsive presence most of the time is all a child needs to thrive.

Being a “good enough” parent means you meet your child’s core needs for love, safety, and connection. It also means you’re human. You get tired, you get distracted, you sometimes serve frozen pizza for dinner for the third time this week. And that’s okay.

In fact, your imperfections are a gift to your children. When they see you make a mistake and then recover from it, they learn one of life’s most valuable lessons: that mistakes aren’t failures, but opportunities to learn and grow.

The Magic of “Rupture and Repair”

Think about the last time you lost your cool. Maybe you snapped when your child spilled their milk or yelled because you were running late. That moment of disconnection is called a rupture. They happen to every single parent.

The “perfect parent” myth tells us to avoid ruptures at all costs. The “good enough” philosophy knows that the magic isn’t in avoiding the rupture, but in what comes next: the repair.

Repair is simply reconnecting. It’s circling back after things have calmed down and saying:

• “I’m sorry I yelled earlier. I was feeling stressed about being late, but it wasn’t okay for me to use that tone with you.”
• “I was distracted by my phone and wasn’t really listening. Can you tell me that story again? I want to hear it.”
• “I love you, even when I’m grumpy.”

These moments of repair are incredibly powerful. They teach your children that relationships can withstand conflict, that apologies matter, and that love is unconditional. The repair is often more important than the original rupture ever was.

5 Small Ways to Be a “Good Enough” Parent Today

Letting go of perfection doesn’t mean you stop trying. It means you focus your energy on what truly matters: connection. Here are a few simple ways to do that:

1. The 10-Minute Pocket: Put your phone away, set a timer for 10 minutes, and give your child your completely undivided attention. Let them lead the play. You’ll be amazed at how much this small pocket of time can fill both of your emotional cups.

2. Narrate the Good: We’re quick to correct, but often keep the positive thoughts to ourselves. Say them out loud. “I love watching you build with those blocks.” “You were so kind to your brother just now.” “It makes me happy just to sit here with you.”

3. Embrace Shared Silliness: Have a 60-second dance party in the kitchen. Tell a goofy joke. Make a funny face across the dinner table. Laughter is a shortcut to connection and instantly breaks tension.

4. Involve Them in the Mundane: Instead of trying to find time for a perfect “activity,” bring them into your world. Let them help you stir the pasta sauce, match the socks, or water the plants. It turns chores into moments of togetherness.

5. Apologize When You Mess Up: Model humanity. Show your kids that everyone makes mistakes and that saying “I’m sorry” is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Your child doesn’t need a flawless superhero. They need you—with your messy hair, your occasional impatience, and your deep, unwavering love. In the story of their childhood, you are not just the perfect character; you are the real, authentic, and “good enough” parent they will cherish forever. And that is more than enough.